I have been so busy preparing for my little one that I’ve been totally MIA here. Well let me say first of all SHE’S HERE!! Weeks 28-37 were filled with planning baby showers, attending doctors appointment, and reading, researching, and buying baby items. I can’t wait to play catch up and rehash it all in some blogs to come and to formally introduce my baby love on here. But for right now I’ve got to get her into a warmer sleeper! It’s dropping down to the low 30s/ high 20s here (freezing for us southern girls!)
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Preggo Tips: Emotions #1
<<15 weeks and counting>>
Granted I’m a first time mom but I’ve definitely learned somethings so far. So as I learn them I’m going to share them. Think my tips are wrong? Tell me. (But I’m like NEVER wrong lol).
First pregnancy tip is to step away from the emotions!
The only pregnancy stereotype more notorious than pregnancy cravings are pregnancy emotions (and sometimes the two are intertwined). Pregnant women are known for going from angry 😡 to happy 😀 to sad 😥 . It can only be expected when are hormones are going off like Mexican jumping beans on a trampoline. I’m guilty of letting commercials making get tearful and allowing people to make me boiling mad. From these I’ve learned the best thing for a pregnant lady to do is to step away from the emotion.
Stepping away from the emotion can be as easy as changing the channel or literally walking away. Stepping away can save you from messing up your perfectly applied mascara or from saying something you might regret later.
More people than not as just flat out idiots and don’t know how what they’re saying or doing is effecting other people, especially pregnant ones. And of those people there are quite a few who no matter how you try to explain it to them they’ll never understand. When dealing with those people it’s best to just let it go! All your going to do is make yourself more upset. I guarantee you a fool has never lost an argument. As far as those who are sane, It’s best to step away and if you still feel strongly about it come back and talk to them when you’ve cooled off.
Now, there are also those times when (As much as it pains me to say this) where you’re hormones will lead you to overreact. It’s these times that give pregnancy a bad name, which is why it’s best to step away from emotions. It stops you from having to apologize. And who wants to be wrong and have to apologize anyway?
Sure you get a pass for your emotions while pregnant but lets not become “that pregnant girl” No one wants to be around anyone that they have to tip toe around, pregnant or not.
Making it isn’t easy, but stepping away will help.
Marking the baby
“Marking” the baby is an old wives’ tale where if you do certain things or certain things happen to you, it will effect the babies personality or physical appearance. For instance if a pregnant woman was to make fun of, or stare at a person with a undesired trait or abnormality then her baby will then have that trait or abnormality.
I know this may sound crazy to some, but there a lot of people who whole-heatedly believe that you can “mark” a baby. And unfortunately I am one of them, to a degree. I blame it on the way I was raised and the fact that I can do a thing around my mother without her telling me not to do that/ say that/ look at that or else it will mark my baby and she doesn’t have much patience for ugly babies.
Now I’m not as psycho as others I know may be about “marking” my baby but I refuse to call someone ugly or unattractive now (I try not to even think it) and I’m constantly praying that my baby will have this trait from me or that trait from this relative. I don’t think there’s any harm in it. And heck all else fails I’ve quit putting some negativity into the world. Right? However I do still think it’s ok to imitate the kangaroo on the commercial. Not like my baby is going to come out with a pouch 😯 (oh God I hope not).
But get this: I’m so peculiar about who I let touch me! I’ve always been a give me “3 feet of personal space” kind of gal, but now it’s like “back away from the preggo!!” Not only do I not want people to touch me because I just hate to be touched but I don’t want their bad vibes/personalities/demons/facial features/etc transferring to my baby and “marking” her. I feel nuts even saying it but it’s how I feel. 😦
Whether “marking” a baby may be nothing more than a old wives’ tale, on the other hand it may have some truth in it. It could be like karma: the baby edition. Either way I guess I’m not taking any chances. What mom-to-be doesn’t want a pretty healthy baby? I look at it as giving my baby an edge. 😆
Making it isn’t easy, but can we make it pretty?
The Worst
{{14 weeks and counting}}
Of course a woman being pregnant is nothing new under the sun, but why must every mother and even those who have never been pregnant tell you horror stories? I am so over it! Yes, misery loves company but why must I be your company?
I can’t comment on any minor victory (like the fact that morning sickness is now almost completely a thing of the past 😀 ) without someone going “well prepare for the ______” For instance the other day I was telling my mother about my crazy dreams and nightmares. Her response was ” Well, in 6 more months you’ll be glad to have nightmares because you won’t be getting any sleep.” REALLY MOM? Before I was pregnant I was the child that slept as long as she would that didn’t want to be touched (still don’t but that’s another post). Now, I was the demon baby from hell who needed constant attention and never slept. 🙄
I’m also so tired of hearing about how much I must miss drinking and how miserable I’m going to be this summer. For the record, I don’t really miss drinking, maybe the social aspect of it and a glass of red wine here and there would fix my craving if I had any (yes red wine is okay people!) And I’m not going to be any hotter than your 300 lb cousin is. Go remind him how hot summer is, please and thank you.
Why can’t people just leave well enough alone? Pregnant women do NOT need to hear about the worst pregnancies and new mommy experiences. If it’s in the cards for them to experience tough times trust me, your “cautionary tale” won’t help at all!
In the words of pretty much every mom and teacher EVER “if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all.
Making it isn’t easy, but your horror story isn’t making it any better!!
In The Making 