So you’re pregnant? What’s next? What better place to find out then the Mecca of all information: THE INTERNET! In today’s day and age it’s not uncommon for mom’s to be to join a birth or pregnancy online message board. There are so many baby websites (check the links section if you’re in need to some) that offer message boards and many of those websites have apps for you to access them on your smart phones and e-tablets. Allow me to give you a run-down of these boards work; the good, the bad, and the idiots.
Online message boards are a great way to compare symptoms, ask questions, and share stories about all things pregnancy related (and some not so pregnancy related). Everyone wants to have someone they can share experiences with as their going through them. Yes, Dad and other “real life” friends and family are great but they don’t always understand. Also, you can share your excitement about things with women before you’re ready to tell your world. There can be a struggle between wanting to share you’re news and wanting to stray on the side of caution. With online boards you get them both! And you can talk about your gas, your mother-in-law, and how you’re kids are annoying you without your cousin knowing about it. You can also ask questions about concerns get advice, give/get words of encouragement, and share similar experiences with women who are going through what you’re going through. Plus there’s a board for just about everything: breastfeed, cloth diapers, crafts, couponing, crunchy moms, working moms, etc.
Thousands of hormonal, achy, sick women with one place to congregate and a computer to hide behind! Sounds like a recipe for rainbows, glitter, and cupcakes right? Definitely NOT! Just as much as the women on these online forums can be helpful and supportive they can be brutal! Some can be judgmental, catty, and relentlessly, cruel. Your vent about your crazy sister-in-law or indulgence in sushi may turn into an all-out e-brawl questioning your character, grammar, and intelligence. So beware! There are also trolls out there who make up the most outlandish mind-blowing stories that will make you both disgusted and flabbergasted. But if it makes you feel any better they usually end up turning into a Tupperware party where recipes and food porn pictures are exchanged.
For every one mentally sound woman online there are ten idiots. Whether they be just plain stupid or trolling to upset pregnant women one post or comment from these e-idiots can make your blood boil or you laugh until you cry. These women can range from misinformed and ignorant to downright selfish a**holes. Posts about breastfeeding being unsanitary and animalistic might piss you off while others about being sugar daddies and not knowing who the baby’s father is will make you laugh from their absurdity. Also let’s not forget those who think spelling and grammar are foreign mythical concepts. Get out your decoder rings for these posts ladies!
Overall pregnancy boards can be great but the best thing about them is you can log off. Take what you need from them and head back to the real world.
Making it isn’t easy, making a post about it might help.